Approaching a girl can prove to be rather awkward and highly challenging for many guys. I have personally realized that there are no secrets to approach a girl effectively. It is just a matter of doing the right things and chances are that the girl will respond positively to your efforts. My failures and triumphs in this niche and that of my friends have made me realize that there are a few, full-proof ways to approach a girl, effectively. Rather than simply listing this approach as tips, I am going to discuss some of the most common questions that guys ask when they want to approach a girl. This includes:
How to control my anxiety when approaching and talking to a girl?
Firstly, don’t think you are the only person who has this problem. Nearly every second guy who approaches a girl gets bouts of anxiety. Some end-up stammering, while others start sweating from head to toe. This kind of anxiety is natural. It is a result of the delicate relation between your mind and body. Only if you are able to let go of interpreting approach a girl as an assignment or some test of your manhood, you will be able to overcome the anxiety. There are no magic pills that can help you in this regard. Just remember, it happens with everybody and you are bound to overcome your fears once you have been through this process once or twice. Be prepared for both, failure and success.
How to approach a girl I don’t even know?
This is perhaps the most difficult of scenarios related to approaching a girl. Please note that the first step of approaching a girl effectively is not making her suspicious about you. Thus, don’t pounce upon an absolute stranger just because you find her too beautiful. You need some decent and reasonable excuse to get things started. If she isn’t looking in your direction or doesn’t seem to stare back at you, things could get even more difficult. My experience says that to approach and talk to a girl to whom you are an absolute stranger is best done by asking for information of some kind. For instance, you could ask about directions to a popular restaurant or about a nearby florist or juice-bar. The idea is to start the conversation in a manner in which you can look directly in her eyes and conceal your efforts.
How to ensure that I am approaching a girl right?
Well, I would recommend not committing some of the most common mistakes that guys make when approaching a girl. This includes:
- Starting conversations with personal questions, asking about her family or acting as if you need to know everything about her.
- Most guys who are worried about how to approach a girl, forget about the fun part. This means that they forget to smile and make the conversation pleasant. The first impression needs to be that of a positive person.
- There are numerous ways to approach and talk to a girl and most of them include starting things by complimenting her. Though this strategy is useful, it shouldn’t be overdone. Don’t compliment her so much that it looks obvious that you are desperate to make an impression.
How to approach a girl effectively when she has a history of turning down guys?
Here, I would recommend keeping your alertness levels high and being ready for a denial. A girl who has a reputation for turning down guys is most likely to make things difficult for you too. As soon as you feel that she is acting aloof or trying to be rude, bid her goodbye. Think of it as having played a hand at poker where your chances of success were always very low. So, walk away with your dignity intact.
— Anubhav Kapoor
How to Approach Girls 