When is the right time to approach a girl in class?

Who doesn’t have crushes? They are plenty especially when we are in high school, the early years of our teenage. Classes are full of young girls knocking at the doors of their youth. They have that natural glow on their face, which somehow goes missing as they grow up.

No reason why fellow guys in the class wouldn’t get attracted to them. After all, they are around that puberty age too. Getting pulled towards the prettiest girl at school or the cutest girl in the class is something that all guys experience. Some of them find it weird and start feeling guilty. The fact that they miss out on is that even the girls feel like that.

Out of ignorance, boys keep away from expressing their feelings. They do not know that girls in school are the most easily seducible and can be befriended with just a little amount of courage on their parts. Do not go by what their expressions say when you talk to them. They are as much anxious and curious about you as you are.

Once you make up your mind and get ready to go up to that girl you like and start talking, you are going to be faced with the most basic question, which is – when should I do it? What would be a right time or the “perfect time” to make sure that it doesn’t turn out sour.

The answer is that there isn’t a perfect time for this. You only need to be aware of the situation she is in the moment you approach her. Your act of starting talking to her shouldn’t conflict with anything the she is already nervous and anxious about.

Most girls are happy and relaxed towards the recess time or after the day’s bell rings. Rest of the times they would keep their focus on studies. You may also approach them during a fun or activity period. the idea is to ensure that she is not occupied with something more important for her at that moment.

Since you are going to blurt out stuff, which she might not want to discuss openly with her friends, you  may also ensure that she is not accompanied by other girls. If she is, you might want to ask her to come out of the horde for a minute or two.

On one hand it is important to pick the right moment, but be aware that you do not keep waiting for it and it never comes. It is an inherent feature of our personality to keep delaying things which we are apprehensive about. If you go by my reading, a week’s time should be enough for you to pick the right time, when you are going to reach out to her. If you can’t do it in a week, then you will probably never be able to do it.

What to talk about with a girl at college?

There is no such thing as the best thing to talk about with a girl who goes to college. Girls are no different than guys in that they also like to talk about themselves, but sure they are a lot less funnier than guys. They want guys to be funny. But remember, being overly funny might make you look goofy.

Some guys are naturally smooth talkers. They will always have something to keep the conversation going by keeping the other party’s interest in it. However, it is all about following a few basic principles:

Be a good listener

A lot of people have the tendency to speak more about themselves than listen to what the other one is saying. Perhaps, it is because of a misconception that the listener, in this case, the girl would get more interested by knowing more about him. This is not true. It will be a much better idea to give her a chance to talk about her and things of her interest, or else her curiosity in you would just wear off too soon.

Do not reveal to much

Try not to reveal too much about yourselves. Leave some crucial details uncovered. Things which she does want to know, but is not frank enough to ask yet. This will keep you in the game.

Focus on what she likes

Your goal should be to keep the focus of the conversation on what things she is interested in. For a girl who goes to college, it wouldn’t be too difficult to guess about her interests. She would be keen on hearing and commenting about the professors, the college set-up, students in the class, latest movies, fashion etc. Don’t forget to poke fun at the clown of the college, guys or girls oddly dressed, or an ass trying to look cool.

Try to tease her

It would be an added plus if you could make well-disguised jokes about her habits, couture, accessories and other information that she reveals. You will need to be a little careful as your comment may backfire, if it is not funny or too offending.

Do not show that you need her

No matter what you say, never convey the feeling that you are needy of her or a girl friend. Give her the signs that you have your own priorities and things of interest that you are more attracted to. Showing her that you are going to be there for her whenever she needs you and for as long as she wants you will only lower your importance to her.